The 4 Stages of a Relationship

Simple, right? Of course, because the truth is, “it IS simple – FOR A GUY!” So why does the process always seem to get more complicated than it should? Well, because the other person involved is…wait for it…a WOMAN!

So, let’s go through each stage; identifying key characteristics, entrance and exit points, and the critical differences between male/female perspectives.

Stage 1) Flirting

This is where it all starts. You’re at a party where there are many attractive women who meet your standards (translation: a breathing female). Scanning the available “choices,” by both sexes, is heating up. As you turn to grab another drink, you see a pair of beautiful eyes looking at you. When she sees you returning her gaze, she (flirtatiously) turns away.

Woman’s perspective – “He looks relatively clean. I wonder if he’s with anyone? How much money does he make? What kind of car does he drive? Hmmm, I think I’ll let him talk to me.”

Guy’s perspective – “She’s hot, I want to have sex with her!”

Stage 2) Kissing

Assuming you and the flirtatious female satisfied each other’s requirements for a reasonably enjoyable interaction (you didn’t drool, belch, or talk about yourself), you are ready to move to Stage 2.

Now, this stage can happen immediately (BEST!), or after a few dates (can get expensive). It all depends on a number of factors; did you say the right things? were pheromones released? did sparks fly? Suffice it to say, Stage 2 is always a good time. AND it leads quite nicely into Stage 3 – HE SHOOTS, HE SCORES!

Women’s perspective – “He’s relatively clean, unattached, has a job, and drives a nice car. I think I’ll let him kiss me.”

Guy’s perspective – “She’s hot, I want to have sex with her!”

Stage 3) SEX

Stages 1 & 2 were great, BUT Stage 3 is the place we wanna be – A LOT! We think, talk, and dream about it, obsess over it, and, yes, even practice it. Stage 3 is genetically programmed into us. It gives us purpose, measures us, and satisfies our primal mandate to spread our seed and create progeny.

Women’s perspective – “Not bad. But he needs to lose a little weight, get a better job, buy a bigger car (for our kids), and buy me a house. I think I’ll keep him (for now).”

Guy’s perspective – “The new girl in the office is hot, I want to have sex with her!”

Stage 4) The After

OK, here we go into the great unknown – The After SEX. While the reoccurrence of Stage 3 can continue for a period of time (with the same woman), and yes, it can be frickin’ AWESOME, don’t be fooled into believing it’s going to go on indefinitely. Of course, everyone’s “After” is different and unique. However, there are common Stage 4 elements that every guy has, or will have, to deal with – and this is where we come in.

The 4th Stage is where honesty about all things having to do with The After is NEVER compromised; where, hopefully, guys can access and learn from the wisdom of others; and above all else, guys can be guys!

Chazz

Learn more – The 4th Stage Framework